Over a month has passed since we welcomed the new year. Many of us made resolutions to become a better version of the person we were last year. So why is it that come December we are still in the same place? Why do we continue to make the same resolutions every year and fall short?
We go all in and make commitments and promises to ourselves and the ones we love. Whether it’s to lose weight, be a better wife, mother or over all person. We try for a few weeks or even months and then the excuses start. Life happens and we start to blame our failures on our short comings or our circumstances. But have you ever stopped and truly thought about why you are failing to become the person you so desperately want to be or have the life you dream of? The answer for most of us is a big fat no. Because it’s easier to blame others or the world for what’s wrong with our lives. But the ugly, in your face, brutal truth is you are to blame. Your negative attitude, your blame of everyone and everything around you, you making excuses for your choices is what’s holding you back.
Why don’t I have the body I want? HMM…Well if it’s not a priority, you will make excuses. I don’t have the time, but you can spend hours on social media taking selfies. I can’t afford a gym membership, but you will spend hundreds on cable, so you can sit and watch TV. TV that adds no value to your life. Only keeps you in the same place you are. I have children and can’t workout with them. Yes you can, you chose not to because it’s hard to do. Going to the grocery store with children is hard and frustrating, but it’s a necessity so you do it. The list can go on and on, but you get the point. If it’s not a priority any excuse will work.
Why don’t I have the success? Because you are your own worst enemy. The problem with our generation is we think the world owes us something. And if we don’t get what we want it’s because the world is out to get us. News flash, it’s not. You are. There are no short cuts, no magic pills. Only hard work. You will never achieve greatness unless you get off your bum and work your butt off. Not wishy-washy, half assed mediocre work. I mean the kind that frustrates you, the kind you have to make sacrifices for, the kind of work that at the end of the day you want to bang your head against the wall because you don’t’ know what else to do.
WHY ME??? If you find yourself asking this question, then you are making yourself the victim. Stop it. Stop focusing on the negative. Stop reliving that bad thing that happened in your life. Bad things happen to people every day. The difference between you the victim and people who are successful is they moved on. They aren’t blaming their situation on the person that wronged them, they grew from it. You staying in that negative space is your choice. What happens in the next chapter of your life is up to you. Learn from it, become stronger and move on. Take responsibility for your own happiness. If you want to be happy and successful, then chose it!!! Chose to be positive. Chose to be the light. Chose to wake up every morning and grab the day by the horns and kick ass.
I can’t do X, Y, Z. Nope you sure can’t if you have already spoken that over yourself. If you don’t believe in yourself, then no one else will. How are you ever going to lose weight, get that job, or achieve any goal if you keep telling yourself I can’t. Stop being the negative voice inside your head. As long as you stay in that negative place, you will always be exactly where you are. We place limits on ourselves because of fear. Stop being afraid of success. Stop waiting for the perfect circumstances to change or go after your dreams. The galaxy will never align perfectly to guarantee your success. Just take the leap, release control and go for it. That’s when change happens.
Stop feeling sorry for yourself and making lame excuses. Stop waiting for someone else to fill your cup. Start taking responsibility for yourself. Start loving yourself. Start valuing who you are and your unique gifts. You have what you need to be successful. Chose happiness. Chose to go after your dreams without fear. Stop making resolutions and start doing!!!
Just because you already fell off the wagon this year doesn’t mean that you can’t get back on board. You may just need some accountability and direction. I can help! Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. Here’s to no excuses for the rest of 2017.